My partner’s son who is much loved by both of us, came to see his dad for the first time in person in 15 months. Up until now, he was only allowed window visits which were pretty useless at this stage of dementia.
It all went much better than I feared. My love was in pretty good shape, outside of needing to be cajoled and well, misdirected, out of chewing on a teddy bear.
I am sure he recognised his son’s voice. And he was calm and spoke several times, clearly. He was of course well groomed and actually pretty happy listening to his ipod.
I had feared this encounter because the last year has seen a pretty sharp decline in my sweet’s cognition and abilities. But his son seemed calm and accepting.
I can only stay sane by not thinking of the past, not looking at old diaries or even reading this blog.
But the care staff were warm and welcoming and it felt to me like we were in a weird and funny way, in my love’s new home, which it is.
As his days with us get less, I wanted him surrounded by observant and compassionate care. It does seem that he is, and it gives my heart ease.
For anyone interested, Crying Out Loud (which originated from a troubled dementia ward in the Valley) is sponsoring a discussion on Wed. April 14th at 4 pm about what quality residential dementia care could look like. You are invited Learn more. Please join us for this important forward-looking discussion.
It affects all of us, so it is time to figure out the future. You can register at
One response to “An interesting day”
Thank you Delores – I’m going to try and be available (I’m working on big Earth Day project) for the April 14 session. Love, Susan >