They (you all! ask politely). I have been putting off this post for a long time because the answer is strange, to me and probably you who care about us, and we do thank you.
So after a few weeks of observation, – afraid to say.anything too soon – i think he is settling into his new level of disability. Which is severe..
He cannot walk or feed himself, although he remembers and relishes the motions.
He knows his name and stupidly I realised just Monday that he meant me when he said something like “delish.” For weeks i did not get it.
What else? He still can direct the food and decide if it is good or not or if he wants more.
He has looked for several weeks like what i call Don Buddha – totally still, calm, listening to his ipod if it is on or not.
And he still clearly enjoys it (tearful blessings to the care home staff who give this to him )
But for a few weeks now he is more alert, tallking a lot, although i do not always/often understand and he does not remember 15 seconds to the next.
Nonetheless there are stiill remnants of function and memory.
And he is fine seemingly enjoying life as he has it.
And i am focussing on learning the same.