So the Island Health-appointed administrator had a meeting with families at Comox Valley Seniors Village two days ago. The room.was packed and even more issues emerged. It was quite a meeting!
That was shocking enough but today a few of us met with family members from Nanaimo Seniors Village.
Their story of how people realised what was happening and came together is a bit different from here, and we had a lot of information to exchange.
It has left me stunned, and grieving that I, yes, desperate, left my poor darling in this situation.
I did not know how far below the standards this care was. I grasped it as a lifeline after 12 years living with my love’s dementia. I was on the ropes and thought the sometimes strange, always paltry care was the price he and i had to pay for my inability to look after him any more.
I didn’t know it is not this way everywhere. I didn’t know it is not even what the system sanctions.
It is just too much to process and i will go for walks in the forest and by the ocean before i try to make any sense of it.
And try to forgive myself for my ignorance.